Down the rabbit hole… When you fall into comparison-mode...

Ok, it’s time. I’m ready! Right? 

I guess it really didn’t matter – I had to dive in and take my photography business to the next level!

I was about three years into my business. Started from a passion-gone-ambitious (or crazy!), I leapt into the world of entrepreneurship! My dream? To do what I loved full-time!

With a little push (more like a big kick) from my past employer, it was time! I could finally wake up, set my own schedule, and focus 100 percent on my photography business, Underexposed.

I had joined a few photography Facebook groups, a local networking group, and started reaching out to other entrepreneurs in the groups to chat, talk about business, and share ideas. So far so good!

But even with the momentum, within the first few days, it hit me… and I fell…

It’s funny – I always pictured the rabbit hole to look more like “Alice in Wonderland” – exploring this topsy-turvy, imaginative land with quirky creatures and new adventures along the way….

What I found was the truth in the metaphor where I got stuck for what felt like an eternity… And believe me, The White Rabbit and The Cheshire Cat do exists…

It started showing up… 

I paused my scrolling when I came to a post in my feed – this picture of a multi-colored haired women, probably just a few years older than me, holding a camera with this eye-catching post title: How I Made Six-Figures in my Photography Business.

Then another… this beautiful blonde posting pictures of her brand new, just opened Boudoir Studio, with her branded packaging and even a wall decal of her logo! Her specialization: How I went from 43 cents in my bank account to 100K doing ONLY Boudoir! 

…And what do I do? I decide to jump down the rabbit hole… deeper and deeper…

I went to their websites, read their blog posts, watched a few videos, opted in to their newsletters and free guides… Maybe a bit obsessively… 

But, I wanted this – Now. Something I didn’t know I wanted just yesterday – and I wanted it to happen tomorrow! 

The more and more I fell… the more and more unmotivated I felt… 

Her photos were sooo much better… 

She had so many likes, followers, and comments… 

How does she get that many bookings? 

How on earth can she be charging that much!?

What was I thinking? I couldn’t do that! 

It felt un-achievable… I felt impossible…

Suddenly, The White Rabbit was playing as my sound-track… I’m late! I’m late! I literally felt like I was behind in everything and wanted to be 100 steps ahead so I could be at least half of where they were…

The Cheshire Cat was mocking me – questioning me – tormenting me with that audacious grin, while I sat more confused, more upset, and slowly reverting into this fear – but a new kind of fear – that made me reconsider everything…

 

Facebook is a love, hate relationship…

Endless resources to opt in to – but too many I haven’t even started, sitting in my inbox, unread…

Millions of people to connect with – but too many to maintain a true connection with…

Hundreds of groups related to similar interests – but too many posts, and suddenly it’s all I see…

However, a limited amount of minutes each day – but too many that pass by as I continue scrolling…

Did you know there’s actually a thing called Obsessive Comparison Disorder?!

Forbes defines it as, “A compulsion to constantly compare ourselves to others,” in this recent article.

 

You know what pulled me out of the rabbit hole?

Luckily, that next Saturday, I had a family session. Because of my state of mind, I remember getting on Pinterest and Google images to look through family poses and tips, literally anything that would help me do better in this session. I felt so nervous – like it was one of my first sessions – because my confidence felt drained…

With a deep breath, I got out of my car and greeted the little family, ready to start their session.

As we were wrapping up, Dad wanted to re-create a silly photo of all of his five kids hanging off of him. I remember blatantly when I was taking this picture:

I realized that, through the entire session, I never thought about comparing myself nor that I lacked any ability to do my job. I realized that I DID know what I was doing. And within that fun, memorable photo, I remembered WHY I was doing photography to begin with! It was my passion!

Passion has a way of taking over when you need it most. All you have to do is let it back in. 

 

It is so easy – especially with social media – to fall down the rabbit hole of comparison.

When it happens – because it will – take a step back and refocus… Remember your WHY – why you do what you do; why you love it; why you started it; and why you continue on your journey!

 

p.s. Have you gotten stuck in comparison-mode? It’s so easy to fall down the rabbit hole and get sucked in! But you’re doing this for a bigger reason, aren’t you? You know you need to move past it and regain your momentum, right?! Let’s chat about it!

Schedule your Free Creativity Call  Let’s work through it to move you forward with a solid plan! Think of it as an open door to get you out of the rabbit hole! 😉

 

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